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I think I am an easy going person. I care very much about someone that I am with. I want only good things for them and want to give them help and support with everything that they need. I was dating this guy for a long time. When we got together, I knew that he was on drugs, I mean I knew it so who could really be blamed here, Me. But anyways, the guy told me how much he wanted to quit because he was tired of doing drugs and he needed help and how he wanted me to help him quit. So I as a good girlfriend tried to help him. When his influencial friends came over and wanted to do some drugs, I naturally said, Do you think it's a good idea that you are doing that? Or, I thought you were going to quit, and I wouldn't call it ragging him or being mean or controlling, I was just trying to do what he asked me to do. So naturally, he blew me and the whole idea about quitting off and smoked or snorted anyways. Of course, I was disappointed, I wasn't crazy but he disappointed me alot when it came to drugs. Behind my back if his friends wanted to "hit" it with him, he would blame it all on me..."Oh, my girlfriend is trying to get me to stop, She is bugging me about quitting and it's getting on my nerves." How fair is that right? So finally after being disappointed for like 100 times now, I finally sat him down and was like..."okay what do you want. you want to keep smoking or do you want to quit..i love you no matter what but if you dont want to stop, you can't come cry to me saying that you really want to." He just kept saying how he wanted to quit and then sneeking maryjane and coke into the house and up his nose and all over the place...I just couldn't take it anymore...so I finally said,"okay I am tired of being disappointed...me or weed." and he chose weed but now everyone of our friends think that I am so control freak and I am bad because I tried to change someone. I loved him...I wanted what was good for him, I wanted to help him. After months of beating myself over the thought of me being controlling or whatever...I finally realized that you can't help someone unless they are willing to help themselves...And now, on his own...he doesn't do drugs anymore!!! Congrats..my ex I am proud of you.

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