Alright, so a few months ago I met this girl CRJ (her initials). She and I flirted quite a bit and seemed to have a real connection, yet my intuition was telling me to avoid her. How I wish I would have listened to it. So she and I eventually started dating, and for a little while everything <i><b>seemed</b></i> to be going pretty well. However, New Years started the destruction of the relationship. They say you're supposed to spend New Year's Eve with the person you want to be with for the rest of the year, and she chose to go to a friend's house instead of spending the night with me. I wound up going to her best friend's house, getting plastered (as was her best friend) and the Best Friend (JN) and I ended up kissing once or twice. Then I pushed JN off of me and went home. The next day, I was planning on going to see CRJ to tell her the stupid mistake that I had made and to beg for forgiveness, but she called me and told me that JN told her everything. However, we got past that little bump. After about three months of me spoiling her, treating her to nice dinners, giving her tiny little gifts (like romantic and funny cards every once in a while, giving her her favorite candy bar, the like) comes Valentine's Day. Now, she told me at the beginning of February that she hated V-Day, so I told her that I'd make sure she liked this one. I told her to make sure she could come over on V-day every day of the 2 weeks prior to the occasion. I planned a huge dinner which I was going to cook myself, I had her gifts arranged in a scavenger hunt around my house, and I spelt her first name out on my bed with rose petals. That day at school she tells me that she can't come over because she never talked to her dad about it! So I sucked it up and went to see her at her house for a while. Everything was fine until I was just about to leave...she told me that she 'was confused about how she felt about me' and that she 'needed to take time to think about it'. (In other words, she dumped me) The couple of weeks afterwards, she gave me stories such as "I like you but I don't want to be tied down", "I want us to go out again but I can't handle a relationship right now" and she kept changing her story over and over. She eventually told me that she had cheated on me twice, including once only TWO DAYS after she and I started dating, and that she had recently had sex with an ex of hers to 'get back at me'. I hated her so much for it, because she had treated me like shit the entire time we were dating even though I treated her like a queen, but with me being the foolishly romantic, lovesick dumbass that I was, I was willing to forgive her, to put all of her cheating (and my one incident), all of her lies, all of the things she hid from me behind us and to start anew. She told me that she still wanted us to be friends and that I was one of her best friends no matter what, so I accepted it. Then, before our Spring Break had started, she and I had gotten into a huge fight and I told her that I didn't want to talk to her for a couple of days. (She had been calling me every night since we started dating, even after we split up). She called in the middle of Spring Break and asked if I was sure about not wanting to talk to her. I told her that I'd start talking to her again (because I really did want to) but then the person whose cell phone she had been using texted me and started fucking with me under her guise. I thought she was fucking with me because she always tries to "get revenge" on things that upset her and she had just gotten done telling me how upset she was not being able to talk to me. So, because I was under the impression that she was playing mind games with me, I told one of her best friends a few things that I shouldn't have, and CRJ got angry with me. (Not that I blame her, of course, I'd feel the same way, and I do because she told her new boyfriend a secret of mine that was extremely hard for me to tell her in the first place). She said she was thinking about getting back at me but that she probably wouldn't, so I apologized (because by this point I felt horrible for sharing her secrets) and I <i>thought</i> everything was good. She talked to me for a bit afterwards, and just last week (april 8th-14th, 2007 of course) I walk up to her and ask her how she's doing. She replies by screaming at me and telling me not to talk to her, and I quote, "for a little while" because she was angry about something. So I send her a message on myspace telling her that if she needed someone to talk to that I was here for her, and she ended up deleting me from her friends on myspace. I asked what was going on and she tells me that she hates me and that she never loved me, that she never cared about me (which is a lie because I have proof that she did care about me at one point) and that she wanted me to leave her alone and never talk to her again. She told me a bunch of shit that may be true, or maybe she just made it up to break my heart yet again. Maybe a bit of both. But now she completely hates me, when I treated her like a goddess, made sure she was as happy as she could be, and apologized profusely for the stupid mistake I had made. However, she's holding it against me (even though she was SOBER when she cheated on me BOTH TIMES, she still holds me kissing her best friend against me when she fucked an ex twice while going out with me) and she's become a total bitch. I'm done with her (as though I have a choice!) but if anyone has any insights or anything, share them, please. I'd love to learn as much as I can from this experience.
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